Edit… Btw I’m an adult, remember that Steve Carrell movie? Yeah, close to that.
Dude. You are still a kid. Not missing out on anything yet.
And yes sex is awesome if it’s good, but takes some practice usually before it is good. It’s free and fun and good for relationships. Better when older and not so self conscious.
You can certainly afford to wait for years, literally no reason to rush, all you are missing out on is the awkward bad part.
Exactly. Mutual, explicit consent is the most important thing. And it’s okay to practice and not come, importance is that both have fun and consent.
Personally though, I’d say laying together is nicer, but tastes differ.
Ha! Well, certainly don’t try it with your dog.
I wish you luck, but if you haven’t tried sex by now maybe it isn’t your thing? Have you no girl-or- boyfriend to try it with? If you start old, you may have to go through the awkward part still but I think it will pass more quickly because you are, presumably, more mature and less hung up.
Because you are in the middle of nowhere? There are so many people in the world, I cannot imagine nobody is into you. Above I see you say something about “people like you” but you seem to be able to communicate well and keep your cool, that puts you ahead of a lot of guys.
If you are around 40, it’s a pretty good age for looking for a partner. A lot of movement in the market, for lack of a better term.
If you want to hook up, get out there and talk to people. If you literally just want sex and not relationship, I can guarantee you that somewhere someone will be thrilled to break you in, no question. Anything you can imagine, someone gets off on it.
If you want a whole different life and sex is just part of what you are dissatisfied with, that is up to you to change - the point of power is always in the now. It doesn’t matter who you were, and while there are outside forces, you can do a lot to change your own life.
I hope, you don’t think the same way, as you perceive society to think. Self love is more valuable than sex.
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Edit: hold up, you’re, like, 14.Don’t worry about these things. Anyone who’s telling you to worry about these things is a moron who’s doing you more harm than good.
How did you know their age?
They posted it in another comment.
Whenever I see a new account posting potentially controversial questions, I like to check out what else they’ve said to see if it’s genuine or if they’re trying to be inflammatory.
I get the impression this user is being genuine but it doesn’t really interest me to be talking to a 14 year old about sex.
…yanno I didn’t read it like that at first, but I get it now.
Well, then, yah sex is fun but I think society overvalues it and one shouldn’t stress themselves out over whether or not they’re having it.
Hmmm…but how can we be sure that you aren’t the dog???
Did you just say “fuck” or “bark”?
Preserve your vital fluids. Don’t let them fool you!
Do not grow addicted to water etc etc
It’s also ok to not really like it. Some people just don’t get that much out of it for various reasons and that’s fine too. Most people have an inmate, biological drive to do it, but not everyone does either. If you really are only 14 as some of the comments say, it’s perfectly normal to want it right now and it’s perfectly normal to not want it. Just be safe about it. You don’t need to jump into something right away just because your peers are doing it.
Ah well in that case…for me personally, I’m 30 and I’ve never had sex. Since sexual themes are so pervasive in media, sometimes I do feel like I’m missing out. But at the same time, I don’t personally seem to have the ability to feel sexual pleasure, so it is what it is. Some people are also physically disabled in ways that mean they can’t have sex or can’t feel physical pleasure during sex. Sometimes it stinks to feel like such an outlier with the inability to experience something everyone talks about, but it is what it is. There are a lot of other things in this world that are fun and can occupy one’s time.
We all got fooled by the dang dog 🤣
As good as eating.
Most are like junk food Few are like fine dining And a few are like eating food you hate at a friend’s house but you’re trying to be polite.
Overall I’d recommend experiencing it, but if you don’t or can’t no biggy.
It depends on who you have it with. If your partner is good at it then it’s one of the best experiences that life can offer. If either / both partners are not good at it, it can still be good and satisfying for one or both partners. Overall I would choose sex over any other awesome activity, unless the other awesome activity was something rare that I may not get another chance to experience.
A real relationship isn’t rooted in sex. It’s a nice bonus, but when you’re both old and grey, you better damn well hope you have more in common than just fucking since fucking is out of the question.
Sex is a nice bonus for people who like it and who have partners who are sexually giving and kind, but the majority of human relationships are rooted in everything outside of sex so you’re already doing right by focusing on the rest.
Sex is a footnote in life, compared to actually needing to know, understand, and care for your partner.
Also, just because you’re not motivated by sex doesn’t mean you can’t have it. I have a friend who likes sex, but is basically a practicing celibate because he has no interest in pursuing it. If it happens, he’ll enjoy it, but he’s not sex-driven, it doesn’t drive his decision making, so it doesn’t happen very often.
Oh, Mr. Flickerman. Old people have sex. More than young people since now not as many distractions, no young kids or chance of pregnancy. I think a better way to express this is, it’s not important as long as it’s not a problem. I agree the friendship part is more important, but having a similar sex drive makes everything work better, and sex is not a silly thing to need in a romantic relationship, it’s not a frivolous extra.
I have a slight problem when people say stuff like this.
Yes, I agree that sex shouldn’t at all be the most important thing in a relationship. And at some point many people aren’t able to have sex anymore. And sure, some people aren’t able to have sex to begin with.
But for most people on the planet, sex is a huge (although obviously usually not the only) component of a relationship and a basic need. So when you can’t have sex, it very severely and significantly limits your dating pool. Pretending it doesn’t is very unhelpful and just not realistic…at least not in the modern, Western world. Other cultures might work differently.
And I think the only reason people are so sex obsessed is because they’re from a sexually repressed society.
So we’ll have to agree to disagree on that one.
Edit: It’s a bit like saying to a gay person “but your dating pool will be more limited if you only choose to fuck the same gender.” Maybe… That’s beside the point.
Depends on the person. As an ace person in their 30s, it doesn’t excite me. I’d rather just snuggle.
Asexual. There’s a lot of us around these parts for whatever reason.
There are levels and layers to sexuality, with some being absolutely disgusted by the idea of anything romantic related at all, while I’d say the opposite end of it being those who are actively willing to engage in sex, but don’t get anything physically out of it themselves.
The biggest thing to note from any asexual person is the general apathy on the importance of sex as a thing to experience. Being one myself, I can’t really claim to know amazing it is, but I can guess that if it’s what some people think about constantly, get addicted to, and continue to engage in after having enough kids that it’s financially impossible to support them… It must be pretty good for some people.
I mean, it’s awesome. But everything is subjective and asexuality is a thing. It’s ok to not want it.
Also, the whole confusion around your age is hillarious.
You can find a prostitute to have sex with you for less than the price of Baldur’s Gate 3 and, unlike Baldur’s Gate 3, sex hasn’t even won Game of The Year.
As an Asexual person don’t feel pressured to have it, you’re valid regardless of if you have it or not and which gender you have it with.
A person can consider a thing as awesome or not, and can change the opinion based on a situation. Sex is also like that. But sex is one of the things which influence thinking and behavior much. Is fear awesome? Is pain awesome? Something like that.
