Specifically thinking of stuff that make your life better in the long run but all kinds of answers are welcome!
I’ve recently learnt about lifetraps and it’s made a huge positive impact on how I view myself and my relationships
Move the decimal point one number to the left. That’s 10% of the original number. Double that number to get 20% of the original number.
Now you have your tip.
Tipping in the US is fucking wack. We have a service charge already on the bill and if i liked the service I tip, giving them more. Nobody should tip for standard service.
Pay liveable wages like the rest of the developed world, with medical, retirement contributions, and taxes all sorted. Then you don’t have to tip.
No one has to tip.
Then people turn out like your username in “developed” unbalanced countries.
As a kid, I was taught to tip 15% for standard service. I still do that today.
20% is for exceptional service. 10% for mediocre. 2¢ for service that’s so bad they should probably think about getting a different job.
Anyway, getting 15% is still very easy. Get 10% the way you said. Now add half of that.
You are not forced to retire once, near the end of your life, for the rest of your life.
Go on. …
Search the web for the term “serial retirement”. The idea is simple, but the implementation requires courage and goes against conventional thinking, although that is changing these days.
“I should totally spend some of my retirement savings in my 40s”
Yes, that does require courage and go against conventional thinking. Ask someone in their 80s how they would feel about having to go back to work in exchange for a few years off earlier in life. Call me small minded but this idea is not for me.
What if you spent some of that time off in your 40s figuring out how to generate even more money for your 80s? You might not do that if you’re too busy spending 60 hours per week every week on your job.
What if you die at 55? Also possible.
Both models have their risks.
I understand why most people oversimplify and assume that waiting until the end of their lives to retire is the right way to do it. It seems safer, even though I’m not sure it is. Sometimes you outlive your money and sometimes the money outlives you.
Nah.
You don’t need to “retire” for a few years in your 40s to figure out how to make money in your 80s. You’re either going to be investing or developing projects or studying, none of which is retirement.
You don’t have to work 60 hours a week from your 20s to your 60s. You could work 40 or even 30 hours a week and spend some time figuring out how to make money in your 80s.
Yes its possible to die at 55, but it’s unusual, and it’s daft to plan on that because obviously in the more likely event that you do not die, you might run out of money.
It’s fine to focus on a good balance between work and life in your 30s and 40s, bit I think calling it a brief “retirement” in your 40s or 50s planning to return to work later isn’t a great plan.
OK. So don’t do it.
I think the idea behind this is to spend your entire life alternating between periods of work and retirement. It’s definitely an idea I could get behind, though society now is not built for it.
It’s a nice idea, but perhaps doesn’t work well in practice.
I think he’s trying to say that retirement is voluntary and that you can still go back to work near the end of your life? Also that retirement isn’t determined only by your age. But the wording of the comment makes it a bit difficult to interpret tbh
Take the following with a big spoon of salt, since I am not a lawyer. Those are the results of interest and some reading on that topic.
Insulting someone is illegal in Germany (§ 185 StGB). You can get financial penalties and in worst cases some jailtime. However, if you insult someone back immediately, those can cancel each other out and the judge can exempt both of you or one of you from punishment (§ 199 StGB). Furthermore, since it is considered a crime, you could, theoretically, detain the culprit in case they want to flee until you are able to get some identification on them, i.e., see their ID card, or until someone like the police arrives (§ 127 StPO). Also this is not okay if you already know the person or have easy means to determine their ID (e.g., your neighbour or someone working at a facility you visit). In all cases the proportionality of your actions are important. (Beating someone senseless just to detain them, because they called you an avocado in a mean way is certainly not okay. This might be slightly different however, if the person in question commited a violent crime and is still acting violently.)
Holy shit what a hellhole
I find it good that there is such a law. It is a law to guide and enforce civil behaviour. No one should be exposed to this as if it were nothing.
By the way, that doesn’t mean that you can’t voice your opinion. Freedom of speech is protected so far. Even if that’s confusing for some people: having an opinion and insulting someone are different things.
Edit: Typo. You can voice your opinion. forgot a “'t” at the “can”.
They aren’t. If I think you’re a bootlicking chud, I have the right to say so in America. We don’t let the offended party decide what is insulting.
They are. You can have a negative opinion about someone, but calling them names or do something insulting, like the “fuck you”-gesture, has mainly the purpose of hurting them.
Why do you think the offended party gets to decide what’s insulting? They get to decide whether they sue, but the judge still decides whether it actually was an insult.
You still have the right to express your opinion. Insults are just not an opinion. You can say “I think you are ugly and support heavy government measures to protect the rights of other people”. You can’t say “You’re a bootlicking chud”.
I’ve heard of like one single case of anyone being prosecuted because of an insult in my 25 years being here. And there wasn’t even any punishment as far as I remember.
There were and are quite a lot of cases. Not all are reported by media as it’s not a big thing if a driver shows another driver the middle finger again. You would need to go through the archives of courts. (Or talk to people who work in attorney’s offices.)
Edit: just found accidentally that in 2016 over 200.000 cases were registered and prosecuted.
I’m sure there are plenty if you take all 80 million people in Germany into account. My point is that it’s not super common for it to happen, so uncommon that I don’t personally know anyone involved in such a court case. I just know of the whole “du bist so 1 pimmel” debacle. It really only happens if you happen to find someone super petty.
Yeah, it’s not very common that someone gets sued for insulting someone else. Still, about 235.000 in the last year, cases is still a higher number than one would expect. (Source: https://de.statista.com/statistik/daten/studie/157630/umfrage/polizeilich-erfasste-faelle-von-beleidigungen-seit-1995/ ) As insults are an “Antragsdelikt” they are only prosecuted if someone files a police report and sues.
I tend to disagree with the notion of “being super petty” for suing someone over insults. Sure, there are quite a lot of them, I agree with you so far. But I think about a lot of worse cases, where people can even suffer from psychological damages, e.g., if they are being bullied that way. Or if such insults are coming in regularily and/or are very intense in their expression.
Oh yeah, that number is in fact much larger than I would have expected.
I’m not trying to say that anyone who sues for that reason is super petty. I’m saying that if someone shows you the middle finger because you cut them off and you end up suing them, you are super petty. I just assumed those are the majority, but maybe my assumptions are just incorrect again.
my example for why the 1st amendment exists to prevent goofy ahh laws like this
I don’t find it goofy. Having an opinion and insulting someone are different things.
That’s super odd. What constitutea as an insult?
There are quite different aspects to this. Formally insults are considered “libels” (or to translate it more literally from german: violations of honour). Some things depend a lot on the indivdual circumstances and actions, some are almost universally. Insults can be expressed verbally, non-verbally and through various means of communication (text, pictures, gestures, etc…).
For example, showing a driver the middle-finger (which is the common “fuck you”-gesture), because they took your right of way, is usually considered an insult. Whereas it is not considered an insult if you and your friends do that among yourselves with a humorous intent (which also needs to be perceived humorous for all participants). Another example: dumping your softdrink over your fellow pupil is usually an insult. Calling someone “bitch” can be an insult if it’s meant in a demeaning way. It is not an insult if it’s meant in a friendly manner, like the “heey biaaatch” and suchlike in colloquial English.
So it really depends on the intentions behind it and the reception of the one receiving the insult.
The jurisdiction of the German Federal Supreme Court of Justice says that insults are expressions about contempt or “dishonoring” (idk if that’s a good translation) towards another person.
I could write a whole lot more about this as there are even more aspects to this (e.g., how family is a special case, how you don’t even need to be the victim of an insult and it could still be illegal, some “flavours” of insults which are handled by different laws and much more), but I’m too lazy to do so now. ;)
But, which is very important and to avoid confusion: You can have a negative opinion about someone and are allowed to express it. It just depends on how you express it. Opinions and insults are different things. Freedom of speech is protected in Germany, but that has limitations there, where you can really hurt someone. (Reminds me of how insults provoke similar neurological reactions as a slap in the face.)
Anything related to hamsters and/or the smell of elderberries.
Elderberries eh?
I will also accept “I am rubber, you are glue” as a possible answer.
As far as I understand it’s decided on a case by case basis. It depends on the situation and person. Lies that make the other person seem less trustworthy can also count as insults (example: “Person XY is using cocaine again!”), and gestures can also be considered insults.
Your example could fullfill both elements of offense, insults (§ 185 StGB) and defamation (spreading things about someone which are not true) (§ 187 StGB).
There’s a paragraph in the German constitution that lists all words that count as insults. German school kids have to recite the constitution once per week in school and when that paragraph comes everyone giggles.
/s I think there probably is some list of insults, though.
What wasn’t reasoned in, can’t be reasoned out. Many people who suffer from conspiratorial thinking need help and support more than evidence and debate.
Most of what society tells us will make us feel happy and fulfilled in life is bullshit. Living a good life is primarily about your personal relationships. Things like social status and personal wealth are far less important.
How to sing, dance and make music.
Life would be different if people wouldn’t argue but express their emotions in a song.
The HR department at your company is the company’s advocate they are not your advocate.
However, the two things aren’t mutally exclusive. Bad behaviour that risks reputational or legal damage to the company will make HR cross. Think about how you frame things when talking to HR
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I am continually flabbergasted that people don’t know this. HR is not your friend.
It’s important to remember that - unless you work directly for the owner or an executive appointed by the board - they’re not your boss’ advocate either.
If the company is worth a shit, they don’t want bosses that abuse their power or make their subordinates miserable. Happy employees are productive employees.
We’ve rid ourselves of a few problem bosses that way. Of course, this only applies to legitimate issues. If a boss is causing people to quit, you’ve got a good case.
This is the part everyone misses. I worked in HR for a number of years and 90% of my job was telling low/middle level managers “you can’t do that to your employee.” (I wasnt high up enough to be dealing with c-suite level complaintants), 9% was recruiting and paperwork, and 1% was telling an employee “You did something potentially terminable.”
Most people only seem to recall that 1% and then keep talking about how “HR isn’t your friend/on your side theyre on the company’s side.” Which is true! But they also didn’t see the 1000 times I slapped their managers hand because I was on the companies side not the managers. Unless your really high up your manager is someone’s employee too. HR isn’t siding with you manager for shits and giggles, there is a reason management won a complaint against you and it isn’t “HR likes management better.” It’s that they framed your problematic behavior better than you framed theirs. Frame everything you report to HR as “this is why it’s a liability for the company” not “I don’t like x,y,z. So-and-so is mean.”
Also remeber just being a bad manager (not doing something immediately terminable) isn’t a firable offense. Yelling/being a low level dick for example may not be something deemed firable. One complaint isn’t gonna e enough and ideally multiple people will complain as well.
… which makes sense, because the reason some actions have legal repercussions is that people have passed laws for the purpose of discouraging them!
We have sexual harassment liability laws because we expect that if we make companies have HR departments that tell managers to not sexually harass their employees, then somewhat less sexual harassment will happen than without those laws.
The law isn’t just there to compensate victims, but to align the company’s incentive (“we don’t want to pay out a bunch of money”) with the worker’s incentive (“I don’t want to be sexually harassed”). The company can avoid paying out a lot of money by not tolerating sexual harassment in the workplace.
It doesn’t always work out that way, because corruption springs eternal; but I expect more nonconsenting asses would be grabbed if it weren’t someone’s job to say “don’t grab asses in the workplace”.
Mitigating legal repercussions is a good thing!
The trick is knowing how to phrase it so it’s clear it’s a problem for the company. They usually love SBIN (situation behavior impact next steps) so it’s good format to use:
Dear HR,
On the meeting XYZ
My boss Bully McIdiot was screaming like a toddler at everyone that disagreed with him
This is preventing the free flow of ideas and Innovation and creating an »»hostile work environment««
So he should be fired. Preferably from a cannon.
kisses and hugs,
the employee of the year
The clue is in the name. Human resources, they just see you as a resource.
Is this also true outside America? You know, the kinds of places with unions, labor rights and laws that actually favor the employee?
It is still true, at least in Europe. I mean, they’re not actually trying to destroy your life, you know, but they’re after the company’s best interests. They might help you, and might make things not the worst they possibly can, because that’ll give a bad rep, but they’re not your friend.
Unions. Unions are your friend.
Unions are all workers friend, but they are not your advocate. If your salary is up to the agreed national contract and there is little they can do.
it depends on the country, and where exactly you work, but in many countries (ehem Italia) they are somewhat too comfortable with the company management to be effective at their job.
Everyone should know that, very often, they are just wrong. And that’s ok. We all are.
The more ready you are to really accept that you could be wrong about anything, and admit when you are wrong about something, the better you will make your own life, as well as the lives of those around you.
I think so many more people should heed this advice. I hope I’m wrong though, and that’s ok 👌
Dude, you just don’t care.
If you’re swayed to their side, then bullied for it, ask them why do they even bother arguing then and why not just go fight random strangers? Then tell them to have some self respect and act like they’ve been here before. Say “for fucks sake” under your breath but still in earshot, shaking your head as you walk away.
Can confirm. This is the way.
I don’t think this fits here. Nobody on the internet is ever wrong! /s
Thanks for the advice! :)
And not only will you make everyone’s lives better - seemingly ironically, by simply accepting the fact that you’re often wrong, you actually make it more likely that you’ll be right.
That’s the part that I think people especially need to understand, since a refusal to admit that you’re wrong is generally rooted in an ego-driven need to be right, and refusing to admit that you’re wrong guarantees that right is the one thing that you won’t be. You’ll just keep clinging to the same wrong idea and keep failing to fulfill that need to be right.
If, on the other hand, you just freely admit that you’re wrong, then you’re instantly free to move on to another, and better, position, making it that much more likely that you’ll actually be right. And if you don’t get it that time, that’s fine - just freely admit that you’re wrong again and move on again. Keep doing that and sooner or later you actually will be right, instead of just pretending to be.
So you’ll not only make everyone’s lives more pleasant - you’ll actually better serve your desire to be right. What more could you want?
Sorry, but the solution to being correct is not being wrong. You are just not wrong, and that makes me correct. And that makes you correct. Therefore we cannot be wrong.
Health related:
- “Healthy food” is a grift meant to sell you shit. And by that I mean most “Healthy Foods” you find on the supermarket or are advertised as superfoods or are at the core of the latest fad diet are in fact just as trashy as any other ultraprocessed prepackaged food. Even if they are truly healthy foodstuffs, they are often something that isn’t a staple of people’s everyday diets (usually shit that is part of the diet in a foreign culture, but not on the West) that you get massively overcharged for because “Muh superfood”.
- The real way to eat healthy is to buy fresh ingredients, cook your own meals, and inform yourself on what your body actually needs so you can be smart about what you cook… But that requires time and work investment, which most people cannot afford to do, which is why obesity is more common in poor folk than on rich folk. Have I mentioned that knowing certain stuff will make you, if not politically radicalised, very angry regardless?
Computer related:
- In windows 10 and 11 if you press Win+V instead of Ctrl+V you’ll get the option to activate clipboard history. After that, you can use Win+V to get a little menu that lists things that were in your clipboard and which you replaced by copying/cutting something else. You can then choose what to paste. Linux has plenty of programs that add this functionality and was in fact there first. No idea about MacOS.
- Learning a bit of your operating system’s command line interface will save you a lot of time and effort in the long run – And you don’t need to become one of those turbo-weirdos that uses nothing BUT the CLI – But the reason the good ol’ console-host/terminal-emulator has stuck around after all these years is that there is a lot of shit that is just faster and more practical to do by typing a few words vs. going through 10 different menus and tabs.
- Save yourself some money: If you’re not gonna be doing hardcore state-of-the-art gaming or heavy video editing or some other intense task, a middle-of-the-road computer from ten years ago with some light upgrades will carry you just fine. Get a used PC, get a decent quality SATA SSD and some extra sticks of RAM (8 minimum, ideally 16 or more) and you’ll be all set for everyday internet browsing and office tasks and shit. Heck, slap in a GPU later and you can get away with playing a lot of games, if not with DigitalFoundry tier performance.
On the topic of the command line interface: it doesn’t necessarily mean using the computer by manually typing long lines of code. The CLI, be it Bash, cmd or PowerShell is also a programming language, and you can save series of commands you frequently use into text files which can be run like executables. At least in Linux, you can weave these into the GUI; For example in the Cinnamon desktop it’s fairly trivial to create context menu items; I can convert a .docx or .odf file to a .pdf by right clicking on the file, no need to open it in an editor, and so on. A few lines of Bash and a little config file and that’s it.
The ducks at the park are free. Like you can just take them.
I had a conversation with ChatGPT on that subject. It could not stress enough how terrible it would be for the duck if I brought it home with me, and that was despite me informing the AI that the duck in question was special, that it could talk and had specifically requested to come home with me.
Have you tried?
This depends on your location. In many countries the ducks at the park are way more expensive than the ones you can get at the grocery.
Are ducks sold in grocery stores?
Well, not alive ones.
I’d like to know this as well. What place sells ducks at the grocer’s?..
This is not true. There are a litany of laws that capturing a wild duck from a public park would be a violation of, so don’t do it.
This is completely not true but don’t listen to me. In never tell the truth.
Would that be “bird law”?
How can birds have laws if they aren’t real?
They are ‘real’ in the sense that they exists. They are not ‘real’ in the sense they are not alive. The birds can all be drones and still have laws.
Sounds like poaching
Yeah, but do the ducks like it?
Which country?
The power in your punch comes from your legs.
Explain please.
The strength behind your punch is in how you pivot your feet and twist your torso, not from your arm or fist itself.
I’m sure you’re right, but I have so many questions now! Doesn’t that depend on the technique I use? Like what if I neither pivot my feet nor twist my torso? What about punching in different directions, for example upwards? I’ve been punching the air around me for a full minute now.
It’s partially but not entirely true. Having correct technique in your upper body matters too, as does accuracy, timing and the ability to create collisions.
All else being equal in terms of technical skill and leg strength, the guy with the bigger arms, fists as shoulders will have a stronger punch.
I had a ton of muscular atrophy in my right upper body due to a bulging disk in my neck --since corrected by surgery-- and I definitely noticed a huge diminution in my striking power, as did my regular sparring partners at the gym. So it definitely does matter.
I’m doing better now, but still not back to 100 percent and probably never will be. But that’s OK since I’m pretty old anyway.
They explain the physics of it pretty well here, I think https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=LNfAwWk33nI&t=1m25s
What if I sit down and punch downwards ?
And everyone should know that, because ??
One day you may find yourself in the same room as a wheelchair bound 101 year old Henry Kissinger
Heaven doesn’t wants him and hell is afraid to have him. Only reason he’s still alive and kicking.
Oh god forbit. I agree. Everyone should know how to punch properly and with force.
When you’re about to face a high risk, high reward situation, you should willfully, willingly start to hyperventilate, as this helps your brain …
NEVER take any stranger’s advice on the internet as credible without checking it with a specialist. This is especially true when said advice relates to your health and/or safety.
That seems like good advice…
I guess I can’t trust it. Since a stranger in the internet told me eh? Lol
Sounds risky, but the rewards are limitless.
… without checking it. If that’s your understanding, you’re correct.
On the affirmative, ALWAYS check whatever advice you hear/read on the internet. Be ultra careful with your health and safety.
How to troubleshoot and give your electronics basic maintenance.
Care to expand on this ?
Of course.
Mostly pertaining to software related malfunctions, I’ve been on the helping end of so incredibly many “have you tried turning it on and off?” situations that I can’t remember all of them. Aside from that, not knowing how antivirus works, not knowing how to search for fixes and solutions to common problems, not reading error descriptions or even how the basic device settings can/do impact performance, etc.
Many people I know don’t know how to navigate their computer’s or phone’s OS and/or settings properly and don’t understand basic descriptions of what functions and settings do, and they’re around 25 yo. They can’t troubleshoot hardware issues either, are unable to identify faulty components or peripherals correctly, and e.g. commonly confound RAM and HDD storage, be they related to phones, computers or other kinds of electronics.
Something stops working and it’s immediately a) call the techy friend to get a free fix for zero effort, b) trade it in for another one/throw it away and buy a new one, or c) call an actual (or not so actual) expert. I mean often times it’s not really that hard to solve the problems. It’s always a faulty product, not the end user failing to identify proper use and how their electronics actually work.
Most microwaves can be muted so the button pushes are all silent. You will have to look up how to on each microwave model but almost all models have a mute option.
Is this a joke my microwave is too analog to understand?
Usually its holding start and stop buttons for a few seconds
I read somewhere you just have to long press zero on most model to mute them
A partner of mine has an above-range microwave with the worst implementation of this that I’ve ever seen. When you mute the button beeps, it mutes the entire microwave. Food finished cooking? Silent. Manual timer set? Hope you’re looking to see when it hits zero. There’s no way to silence the buttons without muting all alerts completely.
Ugh, that’s how mine is too. All the noises or none at all.
Control + Backspace deletes entire words rather than individual characters
Control + Arrows also moves your text cursor by whole words. Combine it with shift and you can easily select a bunch of text without the mouse.
Another one that took me far too long to learn: Shift + Tab will do the same thing as tab (next element) in reverse
Also shift+pos1/end selects whole rows or parts from where the cursor is.
Learn vim and you can completely forget this information
And once you do, you can use them in bash by running (or adding to your
~/.bashrc)set -o vi!
It’s the Home/End keys on US keyboard layouts. I use them all the time when coding.
CTRL + Shift + Home/End will select all to the start/end of a document. I use that one a lot
Ctrl + shift + v to strip formatting before pasting (can be application dependent)
think it’s cmd+alt+shift+v for our mac friends
For a key-combo I’ve found handy:
shift + ins = a more general paste-command. While ctrl + v works in most Microsoft-contexts, shift + ins seems to work both in MS Windows, Command prompt, Linux and several other systems.
similarly if you’re using arrow keys to move the cursor where you want, ctrl + arrow key moves you along word by word instead of letter by letter.
